2) More importantly the header (.h) files in /usr/src/linux-headers-3.8.2-030802-generic/include/linux are greyed out in Dolphin and VMware (but NOT VirtualBox) can't ffind them even though the correct path is specified. This maddening since the same problem occurs in openSUSE 12.3 with kernel 3.7.9.
You need to create a symlinked version.h in that folder, pointed at '../generated/uapi/linux/version.h'
The command "sudo patch' never finishes (at least it was taking longer thank to compile a kernel) I think patch required an argument but I'm not sure of this. I cncelled it - would this make a difffference in the kernel command?)
this mean 'patch' is not getting any input, generally commands with redirection (>, <, etc) don't work properly with sudo. extract the tarball somewhere you have write permissions with your normal user. The only thing you should need sudo for is copying the modified tar back into place.